There was a viral video of a little boy who had to perform a sporting routine of breaking a small plank with his foot which he did unsuccessfully for a number of times. He became frustrated and started crying but his team mates and friends would not let him give up and they kept urging him on even when he wanted to stop the task. “You can do it…” Try again…” “Go… go…,” they kept encouraging him and he it did at last. The friends then cheered and gave a group hug. This simple illustration is what friendship is about. Friendship should not be forced, it should be simple childlike relationship that is mutually beneficial to both parties. It should not be parasitic but reciprocal in nature. Friendship loses its value when one party thinks or feels the other can be used to meet some needs and when such needs are not met, then there is no need for being in the relationship. Right? Wrong!
Do you call everyone your friend? Do you share interests and love being around your friends? Do you have one another back? Are your friends genuinely happy for your success? Do you act towards your friends the way you expect them to act towards you? Anyway, there is no guarantee you’ll get what you give but give your best. If your relationship is filled with rancour and jealousy then why give room to such. There is an easy way out. There was no contract at the beginning and none at the end.
Road signs are also made to help each driver navigate, have a smooth ride and avoid road accidents. The most basic thing about driving is maintaining your lane. You can’t drive in a zig-zag, you have to be on course. When changing lane you have to give indications you’re about to do that, make sure you have a clear view and not put other drivers at risk. I’ve had to cause to keep saying “please maintain your lane” to myself. I rarely talk to other drivers and I don’t shout but when I make some statements like the above I wished they could hear me. Unfortunately, not many road users observe or follow road signs, this sometimes leads to great mistakes and cause casualties.
Choose your friends wisely and avoid drama when you see one in your relationship. Some friends are for a reason, some for a season and some for a lifetime.
Live life to the fullest!